Ouch, I'm roasting myself here...

Divorce Realtor!  Now if that isn't a Niche that keeps you busy!  smile.........I just wrote a blog about 'niche's and thats not one I thought of!  Well having been married 3 times, and currently in a 5 year unmarried relationship......that is ending.......I don't believe in the concept of 'soul mates'......i believe some people are extraordinarily committed or compatible.........I believe in 'soul moments'......I've never experienced a 'soul mate' though.....

Ouch, I'm roasting myself here...

Liz, you are great!  Thanks for being so candid! 

I love the concept of "soul moments".  That is cute!

One of my niches is "Divorce Realty".  It is a labor of love...  if that's not an oxymoron!!!  Divorce attorneys refer their warring couples to me, because I know how to diffuse the tension.

We should start our own group of Serial Monogamists cum Divorce Realtors.  We should call it Soul Mate Nr. 23!  Done!  Do you want to join?

Mirela,  We must be soul-mates!  (sorry, I couldn't resist)

I agree with your post.  I think people just like using the term.  It's really pretty laughable when you think about it.  I hear people say that all the time.  "we're soul-mates" . . .  really . . .  do you even have "his / her" phone number and address or just their MySpace Profile ???   I don't think you can be soul-mates if you only know someone as Bill15467@aol.com....  !

LMAO, serial monogamists...fabulous! Soul mate implies a fitting together of every nook and cranny in a person honestly bared soul. I can say I believe that my current(and 3rd) hubby just might be my soul mate.But, I don't need to say it all over..I have been a serial monogamist too apparently, but I think things do sometimes change...

Brian, you are too funny!  That was REALLY GOOD!!!  Loved the comment; I'll have to start reading your blogs.  You are fun!

Vanessa:  My daddy used to say that men have a hard time "settling down" until they need a "nurse" (translation: until they are OLD). 

Glad you found a "keeper"(that's what us, serial monogamists can claim, in lieu of a "soul mate").  When it fits, it fits!  Hallelujah!  Good for you! 

Mirela,

 You are so right, people just throw terms around without thinking. This September i will be married 25 years. I think I am approching soul mate status

Hugh:  Wrong!  You are ALREADY THERE! 

Congratulations!  Married HAPPILY for 25 years is a major achievement.  Care to impart some good advice for all of us "habitual offenders"?

Mirela....sorry I didn't read back until now - and saw your message.....WHAT there isn't a Divorced Realtors Group.....I'll bet we'd have 80,000 members.......ok well maybe 70,000.........but as for Serial Monogomy....that might narrow it down a bit......! we need a catchy name.......something people will admit to...! lol let me know - brain storm! 

Liz, I made us a group for Divorce Realtors and Serial Monogamists.  I called it: 

                                Soul Mate Nr.23

Come on and join and post something there!  This is going to be too much fun!

Awwwww Mirela - and here I was hoping you and I were soul mates.

I had a friend from Korea one time - she was my Seoul mates.

My best friend in college wore the same size shoe as me so we could swap flip-flops - we were sole mates.

Enough.

Gene, how do you do it?  You are so-o-o witty and hilarious.  This stuff just comes to you...   I could sit here for two hours trying to be funny.   You waltz in here for a few brief moments and infuse laughter.    As soon as I saw a comment by Gene Wunderlich on my "Soul Mate Nr.23", I knew it would be good.  I wasn't disappointed.  I only wish you had not stopped yourself.  No, really, that's not ENOUGH.  You can come back anytime and add more.  PLEASE!

Soul Mate #23 - Is it anything like Soul Sister #23? 

I don't think I've ever used that term with my husband and I'm the happiest married person I know. I do agree with you though!

Jackie:  The answer is: NO, because Soul Sister #23 means that you STILL have the other 22 Soul Sisters...  Us, soul sisters, do bond for life!

LaNita:  That's refreshing!  Also, please do share: any advice for us "serial monogamists"? 

they truley could be soul mates but this guy likes to explore other options by the sounds of things. How about the guys in utah that have 20+ wives and are still married to all of them. Are they soul mates??? Joking, i know where your going with this.

Thank you!  Did you join our group yet?

Mirela:

Have you read the book "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert? It is the most entertaining and moving book I have read in a long time. After I finished it the first time, I immediately read it again.

It's about a woman's year long journey after going through a bitter divorce through Italy, India and Indonesia (Bali). During that year she is also trying to remove herself from a dysfunctional relationship with her boyfriend.

She has a discussion with Texan man who's staying at the same Ashram in India. She's just so torn up because her relationship with this boyfriend is so intense but dysfunctional. She comments that she thinks the boyfriend might be her "soul mate."

The Texan says, "People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...

~eat, pray, love by: Elizabeth Gilbert (pg 149)

I thought that was such a profound description. . .

I read "Eat, Pray, Love" - twice.  It is one of the best books I've read in a long time (read it right after the best book I've read in a long time "A New Earth").

Eat. Pray. Love (#24, 25, etc...whatever the number, it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, right?) . :)

Sylvie:

Absolutely,  I agree. It's important to take that risk.

Lisa

Lisa:  That book was recommended to me by many of my girlfriends.  I have it; I just have to read it.  I'm reading about 7 right now, and I have to finish these first. I'm almost done with 4 of them, so I'll probably start on it soon,  No, wait: I just bought one I'm really looking forward to delving into.  It's called:  "What If?  Eminent Historians Imagine What Might Have Been".  It's only about a thousand pages...

Now that you attracted my attention to it with these lovely passages, I probably will curl up with it tonight...

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master..."

Wow!

Mirela:

It's a really fast read. I think I read it in two days. It was wonderful. . .Elizabeth Gilbert has such a wonderful narrative voice. It's so down to earth while at the same time being incredibly profound.

Her description of her attempts to meditate made me laugh out loud (I'd add the excerpt but couldn't find it on the net). I guess you'll just have to read it.

Your "What If" book sounds really intriguing. I think I'm going to have to pick that one up.

Thanks for founding such great interactive groups Mirela!!

Lisa

Mirela - I have historically been a serial monogamist. (Ok, there was the period from about age 17 - 22). I have never considered any one a soul mate. That is, up until now. We have been together 6 years and it keeps getting better. Hopefully, we will be together another 20 or so. Then I can be sure.

Mirela,

I never was one to throw around "I love you" 's, and I don't believe that I have ever used the term "soul mate".  I have heard it used foolishly too many times, and usually in the "cheesiest" of relationships.  (Your ex's current "situation" comes to mind!)

However, I have been with my husband for 13 years now, and if I had to use the term, I believe that my husband would qualify.  We support, love, cherish, INSPIRE, adore, respect, and uplift each other.  We are partners.  He is my protector, and I am his support system.  He respects my "radar", you know - "honey, I don't have a good feeling about this . . . ".  And I respect him as the head of our home. 

I attribute our success to the "threesome" that we have.  You know, Steve, me, and above all God as our foundation.  Steve and I have been together since he was 19, and I was 24.  He has been a wonderful father to my sons.  Setting lifetime examples for them to follow, including an excellent work ethic, monogomy, how to cherish your family, yes, real men love God. and it is o.k. to follow your dreams and be an individual.

I am eternally grateful for my "soul mate"!

Thanks for always having the best posts Mirela!

Have a fantastic day!

Nyana