Ahhhhh To Get A Word In Edgewise! How NOT Listening is a Deterrent in Real Estate AND Life!

First scenario: I just recently received a call from a childhood friend...waaaaay back when. This person didn't ask me about "me," just rattled on and on and on and on repeating the same thing over again. I can assume that this individual is lonely, BUT are WE ever the ones that dominate and DO not listen or HEAR or TAKE A BREATH. Every time I thought this individual had taken a breath and I would try and interject anything, they would just talk over me. Needless to say, I've memorized the phone number and won't soon pick up the phone.

Second scenario: I received a call from an agent located in another state. She was interested in referring me to a client that had asked her for a referral. He had formerly worked with another agent who - you guessed it - didn't listen to what he wanted. Did not hear. He asked for an agent that would listen and for her to make that known to whomever she selected.

Listening is a skill - truly! Most of us are more interested in what WE have to say, what WE have done, where WE have been. It's all about ME, isn't it? A skill such as listening can bring us more friends and more money than all of the websites, blogs, or classes we take.

A few years ago, I had referred a client to another agent here in town because I would be gone for a couple of weeks and he wanted to move forward. After working with the other agent - WHO DID NOT LISTEN - he decided to wait for my return. After showing him five homes - and he commented about this very fact - he and his wife found what they were looking for. He emphasized that it was because I WAS LISTENING AND HEARING WHAT HE SAID. Too many times, our minds are all over the place.

Even in personal relationships with spouses, with children, with ANYONE, one of the truly cool things in life is to feel "listened to." To be "heard!" Isn't it? Aren't you DRAWN to the people who listen and hear you? Just food for thought. ;-)

Mesa, Arizona Real Estate. Call me at: 480.216-3334 for information on purchasing or selling a home in Mesa, Arizona or surrounding towns. OR email me: Teri@TeriEllis.com. Feel free to visit one of my websites: HomesAzRE.com, MoveToMesaAz.com or MoveToSunnyAz.com. Or stop by my blogs at: Active Rain; or Phoenix Valley Real Estate Blog