The time of RESOLUTIONS is upon us!

Like most people I have been thinking of my resolutions for the upcoming year... and that entails some hard thinking about the previous years performance, blech... not my favorite thing to do. I am a "move forward" type of person but I tend to hare of in any forward direction even if it doesn't stand to benefit me in the long run. Thus the review of last year...

When my children were young and brought home less than stellar grades we would visit over the report card and the conversation usually went like this; ME: So, what are you going to do? THEM: I am going to do better! ME: OK, how? THEM: uhhhhh....hmmmm, what? ME: sigh...

I learned to ask more leading questions...what had you hoped to do? How close did you get to that goal? What got in the way? They became more engaged in the conversation and once they had ID'd the "problems" were in a better position to change it themselves...

What does this have to do with Resolutions? Well, most conversation about resolutions sound an awful lot like my conversation with my 4th graders... Ask yourself the important questions starting out with; What you want out of life! If it is the same thing as last year but you didn't ahcieve it...find out what got in your way, chances are it was YOU! Stop telling yourself that you worked hard and deserved that 2 hour lunch... instead; ID your goal, how you will achieve that goal and then stay on track until you reach or surpass it! Thats what you really deserve, success.

And if this sounds like self preaching... it is!

Off to the gym to work off those wonderful dark chocolate truffles that I didn't deserve but really really wanted! And tonight I will map out what went wrong, what went right, what could have gone better and just exactly what I am going to do about it!

Hau'oli Makahiki Hou!