"You'll Figure it Out"

It was an interesting ride to work today. Several thoughts crossed my mind and today's reality seems formed by a variety of distant memories coupled with some recent experiences.

First I was thinking about my family. Our thoughts about who we are really seem to be influenced by what loved ones see in us. I started taking a mental inventory of the people I love.

Immediately, I realized how difficult we have made it to connect with some of those closest to us. Communication is not always an easy activity to understand. Most of us have to really dig pretty deep to understand how our perception is a projection from something happening within us. We take the dynamics of a relationship and allow it to dictate how we interact with that individual.

Now I would be telling stories if I said all of my relationships are perfect. That doesn't necessarily seem like a realistic standpoint because none of are perfect. Striving towards perfection with the relationships that are most important to us is an wise life practice. You can learn a lot about yourself and your projected reality from those who spend time on your mind each day. In fact, many people believe that there are loved ones that never leave your subconscious attention.

That is hard to argue with. If you are a parent, or if you truly know love with someone, or even if you have experienced the loss of a loved one, you understand the constant awareness or connection being had. There are just those people, those relationships or souls that touch our every thought. For me, there is a beautiful handful.

There are my children. The past year has brought forth new challenges for me as a parent. I am learning how to be a father from a distant while also doing my best to raise a very interesting teenage son. Anyone else raising teenage children can testify that these creatures definitely prove the existence of Karma. What makes me nervous is that as much as it feels like a roller-coaster ride, he has been way easier on me then I was on my parents. This explains why I spend a lot of time making spiritual deposits in my life today. It is my attempt to balance out what I probably deserve.

The challenge of being a parent from a distant is something I would not wish on anyone. It is hard to meet the needs of your children in a telephone call every day. Representing love in my every thought they remain present in everything I experience. And it is my way of making sure they can feel me in their world.

There are the new relationships that have blessed my life in the last year that also remain a perpetual focal point. It feels good to finally be experiencing the type of love that my grandparents demonstrated for one another. My love for Kirsten is something I will spend this physical lifetime trying to describe. She continues to bring clarity into my field of vision. There is no longer any doubt that life is a Divine Design. I appreciate the miracle that she is for me and all of the other relationships formed with her network of loved ones. A genuine person is always surrounded by genuine people. She is a compassionate woman who inspires love to continue its flow through my life.

My grandfather, who passed away nearly two years ago, remains on the top of my mind's awareness. Here is a man who has loved me unconditionally from the moment I was conceived. Even when I was shocking the rest of my family, by having my now teenage son at the tender age of 14 years old, he never showed a sign of disappointment. His love had no conditions to it. Always having my back, he just looked into me and said, "You'll figure it out."

I can remember the very moment those words left his lips and hit my ears. It was as if my nod came from some subconscious place within me because I certainly had no idea what I was going to do then. But the comforting squint in his eyes as his cheeks raised with a smile was enough reassurance to carry me into this very moment where I continue to hear his voice, "You'll figure it out."

Even after his passing, when it was the decision to set out on my own personal wellness challenge was born, I heard him gently cheering me on from inside. As I worked my way through a rocky divorce, he was still there encouraging me to learn from that experience. And now, more than ever, as I model myself around the type of family man he was to us, he is right here letting me know that I will figure it out.

Same goes with this business in times when it is needed the most. I will continue to figure it out. It has become personal to me; much more important than money or things. It is about manifesting in my life that which I know resides inside of me. I want to share an unconditional love for all of life. May we all be a source of light that guides the collective whole towards the light we share, but that which must shine through us.

Live Complete is dedicated to the memory of my grandfather Oscar Tibbetts; a memory that exists in every moment that I exist in.