SarahGray Lamm~REALTOR~ 60K Hours of NC Real Estate Experience~

Trust is vitally important with our clients. In fact I would make the argument that it is the ONLY thing that matters in any client relationship; but with first time homebuyers, real first time home buyers, it is an absolute imperative. It is never comfortable to take advice from someone you just met. Imagine how it feels when you don’t even know what to ask or how to evaluate the answer!

The great majority of my business is referral. Yep, I’m lucky. I’m also very experienced. But there would be no referrals if my clients didn’t trust me. This is not about what to do to MAKE my clients trust me. It’s about earning their trust through my actions. It’s about understanding where my clients are coming from and giving them the information they need, as intelligent human beings, to be certain they do not have to wonder whose side I am on.

In this world of high tech, immediate gratification, ‘tell me something I couldn’t find out on the internet’, there is still a place for experience. So how do we get them to not only listen but expect that advice? You absolutely must put yourself in their shoes…walk their walk…I’d say talk their talk but I’m a southern girl and not everybody talks my talk. But they definitely understand my point. My point is that their best interest is central to my agenda!

The average age of the first time homebuyer has gone down, way down, since the advent of technology. And why not? First time homebuyers have access to information the rest of us only dreamed about when we were their age. Heck, I don’t think I even dreamed about it. They can check facts, evaluate information and ask for opinions with the click of a mouse. I had to ask my folks. Which brings me to my first point…young people today STILL ask their folks for advice.

I address, pretty quickly, the fact that I know they will be asking for input from parents and others. I invite them to do so and to let the influencers in their life feel free to either join us or contact me if they have any questions. The amount of information I give a first timer is extraordinary and to expect them to be able to present it succinctly to a parent, once they are excited about a house, in such a way as to assure the parent that I have their child’s best interest at heart, is asking a lot. (I know I said child, but I’m the 50+ ‘child’ of my parents and some things never change!)

At our first substantial meeting I do a very thorough and easy to understand explanation of buyer agency (If I do say so myself) and how the process works from today all the way through moving in. I explain the job of all the professionals they will come in contact with throughout the process. It’s a long meeting but TRUST is the goal here.

The time comes swiftly when I need to make my promise to advise, good. We have all been there when a buyer has told you they want x, x, and x….absolutely…and then they fall in love with something completely different. I never judge because sometimes the process is, in itself, the change agent. But would I be doing what I promised to do if I did not point out the disparity? If they know they have made the decision because they are educated, let’s rock on. If we have lost our way, let’s get it back.

When first timers fall in love with things I know they can buy cheaply later (like new countertops or pretty bathrooms) but those things are in a house that will be a tough sell in a few years, I will tell them; absolutely. And I will make sure they hear me when they are picking a home in an area that has any number of other issues: builder controlled HOA fees that will need to go up quickly when the project is built out, highway noise in a market that doesn’t have to accept it, a family home in an area that has less than stellar schools … you name it. My clients can trust me to play devil’s advocate. It is not my place to tell them what they want. We all learn and adapt with more and better information. But my job, no, my obligation is to tell them what they need to know to make an informed decision.

I will never be sorry to list a property I have sold to a client. Never. Can I predict everything that will ever happen? Hardly. If I could I’d be doing something besides selling real estate. But do my clients trust me and send me referrals? Absolutely. Trust is an imperative. It isn’t anything new and it isn’t exciting. Is it novel these days? I hope not.

April is National Kite Flying Month! Carrboro will once again celebrate by hosting the Annual Community Kite Fly at Anderson Park on Highway 54 in Carrboro, today, Sunday April 19th, between 1p.m. and 3 p.m. Bring a kite and don't forget the kids...including the four-legged kind! Ribbons will be awarded in various categories and age groups...as if you would only fly a kite to win an award.

What are you waiting for? Go fly a kite!

I've been in home inspection mode lately. We all know this is good because it means CLOSINGS! So it isn't any surprise that my first thought when I saw this was:

The #1 Reason To Make Sure Your Window Screens Are Installed Properly Before You Throw Them Open To Enjoy The Spring!

I guess when you eat, sleep and breathe North Carolina real estate the strange places your mind goes shouldn't surprise!

If you live in or near the proposed Carolina North campus the group Neighborhoods for Responsible Growth (NRG) is looking for your immediate input and has posted an online survey to collect the opinions of Chapel Hill and Carrboro neighbors who will be the most affected by the traffic patterns in and out of Carolina North. It is a short survey with questions specific to your neighborhood and ample space to make comments.

The Chapel Hill town council is expected to sign off on the final Development Agreement by the end of June so time is short to express your opinion. NRG will sponsor "Carolina North: Don't Get Stuck in Traffic", a public meeting on May 3rd, 2009 from 4 - 6 pm at the Homestead Community Center. The discussion will include only issues around traffic and transportation associated with Carolina North.

According to the Carolina North website, "Carolina North is a research and mixed-use academic campus planned for 250 acres two miles north of the main campus of UNC-Chapel Hill. As a public research university helping to transform the state’s economy, Carolina must compete with national peers for the talent and resources that drive innovation. Today, that competition demands a new kind of setting — one that enables public-private partnerships, public engagement and flexible new spaces for research and education. Carolina North’s first building, the Innovation Center, will be a business accelerator designed to house start-up companies with direct ties to Carolina research."

A plan of the proposed campus is included in the 2007 Carolina North Plan as well extensive additional information. If you feel you will be impacted in any way, I urge you to fill out the survey and attend the meeting.

Turned on the TV over my coffee this morning and that FreeCreditReport.com commercial came on about the young man who lives in his new wife’s parents’ basement because she defaulted on a credit card when she was single and didn’t tell him.

Then one of the guests on my morning show was talking about how this economy has allowed parents to say NO to their kids without guilt…they can blame it on the economy.

I couldn’t help thinking about a young man I had the opportunity to share my thoughts with a few years back as he prepared to marry his dream girl. Being mindful that anyone who asks “what do you think about my fiancée?” doesn’t really want to know what you think, I cannot say I was surprised that my advice was, if not ignored, certainly filed under ‘WHATEVER.’

Here’s the problem though. His intended had bought a new car a few years before he met her and promptly wrecked it. She decided she didn’t need to make payments on a car she couldn’t drive. Fast forward a few years and she is now engaged to the young man. She wants a new car and he wants to help her.

‘Why,’ I say, ‘do you want to put a car loan in your name before you are even married?’Because,’ he says, ‘she can’t get one.’

Siren sounds. Bells. Whistles. The hair on the back of my neck is on full alert.

‘Are you going to want to buy a house after you get married?’ I ask innocently.

Well, you already know the answer and you can probably fast forward a few more years to when he was picking up the pieces of a failed marriage. She had run through every dime he had buying beauty treatments, baby clothes, baubles and bad behavior.

He was still pretty miserable when we talked recently as he told me she had taken his entire 401K in the divorce settlement. ‘Cheer up,’ I said. ‘If she hadn’t taken it you still wouldn’t have it thanks to the economy. Time to move on.’ (Hey, I know him really well so no grief about sarcasm, thank you.)

We teach our kids that money is for spending. Don’t have money? Use a credit card. We teach our kids that a fabulous wedding is the goal, not a lifelong commitment that includes co-managing assets. We worry about whether or not we’re going to have grandchildren, not whether or not those grandchildren will be born to financially secure parents.

Maybe this economy can start a new trend for parents who apparently were challenged by the word NO when their kids were…kids. While we are advising young people to speak to a minister to make sure they are spiritually compatible why aren’t we advising them to see a financial planner? Pull a credit report on your intended and share yours with her/him. It could be the basis of a discussion that can completely change your life.