Bob Meyer

It happens to everyone, those moments that want to shake you, those times that make us question everything and everyone on our path. But we are all smart enough to know that its LIFE, it happens, its OUR REACTIONS that change the outcome of triumph or disaster.

When a young graduate has the accomplishment of college under his belt, he can either celebrate and then move onto a career and success, or he can choose to sit on the couch everyday, going absolutely no where. If he chose the latter of the 2, then his accomplishment of graduating college means virtually nothing. His reaction to his accomplishments can make or break his future.

Our reactions to EVERYTHING will decide our path, we will encounter things on ANY path, that aren't things we WANT to deal with but it is HOW we deal with them that determine WHO we are. How do you want to be thought of?! I want to be that person that when adversity arrives, people can say with confidence, that I handle my situations to best interest of myself and those around me.

When something or someONE comes against you in any way, shape or form, are you going to cower and cry and let it make you feel defeated. Or will you greet the situation with a smile and a chuckle, because you see it as another opportunity to grow as a person. Are you going to find humor in the areas of struggle and look forward to the positive outcome because you KNOW you will overcome, or will you let the negative of the situation define you?

Have you ever seen a driver on the road just completely outraged, maybe for no valid reason? What do you do? Get outraged back? NO! What reaction can you have that will stop them in their tracks?? LAUGH!!! When there is confrontation and someone starts laughing, there is nothing else to argue about. Overt further hostility by laughing. When that next bill comes in the mail and the checking account is empty, has sobbing about it ever made the money show up to pay it? NO! So why not laugh through IT ALL!!! At least we will have joy in the midst of our battles.

Turn that frown upside down!!!!......HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!

And .... "HA HA HA HA HAHA"

It happens to everyone, those moments that want to shake you, those times that make us question everything and everyone on our path. But we are all smart enough to know that its LIFE, it happens, its OUR REACTIONS that change the outcome of triumph or disaster.

When a young graduate has the accomplishment of college under his belt, he can either celebrate and then move onto a career and success, or he can choose to sit on the couch everyday, going absolutely no where. If he chose the latter of the 2, then his accomplishment of graduating college means virtually nothing. His reaction to his accomplishments can make or break his future.

Our reactions to EVERYTHING will decide our path, we will encounter things on ANY path, that aren't things we WANT to deal with but it is HOW we deal with them that determine WHO we are. How do you want to be thought of?! I want to be that person that when adversity arrives, people can say with confidence, that I handle my situations to best interest of myself and those around me.

When something or someONE comes against you in any way, shape or form, are you going to cower and cry and let it make you feel defeated. Or will you greet the situation with a smile and a chuckle, because you see it as another opportunity to grow as a person. Are you going to find humor in the areas of struggle and look forward to the positive outcome because you KNOW you will overcome, or will you let the negative of the situation define you?

Have you ever seen a driver on the road just completely outraged, maybe for no valid reason? What do you do? Get outraged back? NO! What reaction can you have that will stop them in their tracks?? LAUGH!!! When there is confrontation and someone starts laughing, there is nothing else to argue about. Overt further hostility by laughing. When that next bill comes in the mail and the checking account is empty, has sobbing about it ever made the money show up to pay it? NO! So why not laugh through IT ALL!!! At least we will have joy in the midst of our battles.

Turn that frown upside down!!!!......HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!

And .... "HA HA HA HA HAHA"

So I remember someone once said to me, when faced with an important decision that I should weigh out the pros and cons of each choice I had. I decided not only to do this when I have a decision but also when I decide on my own opinion.

When faced with opposition or a situation that may try to get you down or an experience that wants to present only negatives, sit down and write a list....a "pro" list and a "con" list.... for example: if you lose your job, wreck your car, break a leg, or drop a $100 bill in a parking lot without knowing it.....those all have a negative slant...but you can make your list of pros. which I guarantee will be longer than the cons. You lost your job maybe but you can always find new work, maybe even something you like doing better, that pays better. You may have wrecked your car, but you probably need a new one anyway and at least you weren't driving someone else's car. You may have broken your leg, but you will still be able to walk. you have your family, your friends, your health....there is always something to look forward to or think positively about.

Don't let it get you down, be the star of your own show and write the ending you want and be the BEST character in history!!

Oh MAN!!! It can be rough can't it? When someone you have tried to extend a helping hand to just doesn't get it and abuses your help. Not only taking advantage of your generosity but neglecting the very thing you gave them to help. Everyone thinks that being generous and kind hearted means you treat everyone with the same spirit of giving....NOT SO.....we need to be frugal with where we give our time and energy.

Ask any gardener, you wouldn't plant a seed in soil that cannot host life. You wouldn't plant orchids in Chicago in the middle of winter, you probably wouldn't try to grow a banana tree in Alaska either. Some soil and climate is better breeding grounds for certain types of seeds while others are not. Just because you don't plant your seed in ANY OL' ground doesn't mean you are stingy or inconsiderate....it means you are wise and you know the value of your seed.

If we keep planting our seeds in infertile ground, we will end up frustrated and more than likely become bitter as an effect of our results. If someone who had borrowed money from you repeatedly, never paid you back, you will eventually stop lending them the cash. Most people don't want to put their hard earned money into the hands of a homeless person, in fear that he will buy alcohol or something destructive, because we know that isn't good ground to sew that particular seed, maybe a sandwich would be easier to give.

We can be generous and wise at the same time. You can be a smart giver. Our opportunites to give are to be treated as a precious breeding ground. What results do you want from your planting? You have to know your seed as well as your host and you can still be the generous person you desire to be without feeling like you are always being taken for a ride.

Give till your hearts content!!

What I am about to say I may have said similar things before but its worth reminding ourselves.

There are days when it takes every ounce of energy just to pick your face up off the pillow in the morning. Finding the motivation to do anything your responsible for is like trying to find a dry spot in the ocean. I honestly think this is the effects of going MUNDANE. If you get too caught up in the day to day, you can forget the things you enjoy....the small things that produce moments of true joy. The things that, if unnoticed, can make all the difference in the world.

Some people complain about a chaotic house in the morning, then they complain about the traffic on the way to work, then they get to work and complain because they have a stack of things to do. Or you could look at it this way.....Be grateful you have a family, some people are actually completely alone and would give anything to have just a human connection. When you sit in traffic, enjoy the fact that you have some extra time to yourself in the morning and that you have a car to drive. When you get to work, thank your lucky stars that you HAVE an income to take care of yourself and your family, realize that when you get to work and have a lot to do, that means you are busy, which means #1 your day will go by faster and #2 as long as you are busy then you know you still have a job.

Lets just enjoy things that still deserve to be enjoyed no matter how small they may seem. If you saved 5 dollars everyday from the age of 10 to the age of 30, you'd have over $36,000. So the little things add up, lets not discount them. Just you smiling at a passing stranger or holding someone's door open could change their day and alter future days as well. Don't discount the little things, they add up.