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Michael Swift

Working with Divorcing Couples in Real Estate

Dear friends,

There is always a level of resistance when working with divorcing couples. If you ever have it can be very challenging. We care about our clients so much and to see them going through the stress of divorce can almost bring tears to your eyes. Coming from a divorced family situation at a very young age and being the youngest of 5 children I have experienced a lot personally. I remember having to choose between my mom and dad on the front lawn of our house in Hermitage, TN we were about to lose it because of the tragedy. Below are some heart wrenching facts of my personal experiences with it. This isn't judging folks its just what happens to a lot families.

  1. Married couples fighting for stuff instead of each other!
  2. Losing a friend of 27 years.
  3. The kids lose their parents. "Is it my fault?" "When will I see you again?"
  4. The kids college fund goes to pay for MORE important things like attorney's fees!
  5. Values get flushed down the toilet with who is "daddy" or "mommy" kissing now?
  6. One of them says "I dont care, you can have it all!" Destroying their financial stability for years to come! Worst mistake anyone could make is imitating this situation.
  7. United they stand, divided they fall! You never really comprehend that it takes two until you fall apart and lose everything!
  8. Drinking & Drugs! This may solve some problems...
  9. Friends become between them, choosing sides. "What are you doing talking to them about us?"
  10. How many times will the they(husband,wife,kids) hear you say "@*%^!" The emotional pain, hurt,stress, abandoned, feelings of betrayal! Oh!!!

There is so much more but I will stop there. I have some very strong opinions but in this situation as an agent we need to keep ourselves as calm and cool as possible for both of them. The kids will also experience the mess. Never take sides. Remembering there are always two sides to the coin. I will be talking about these issues one by one week by week. For those of you whom are interested in learning more about divorcing couple's situations in regards to contracts and working with this type of client, please keep in touch and just remember we can only do so much. If we stick together we can help so many more people! Remember, I am not a licensed therapists, attorney,or CPA. I am however a very well connected realtor! Have a blessed weekend!!